Deviants Podcast: Why Would Anyone Want to Be Tied Up?
- Sophia Rose
- Aug 3
- 2 min read
Most people hear the words rope bondage and picture something extreme, painful, or intimidating. Sophia Rose has spent over a decade proving that assumption wrong.
In this episode we sit down with London-based BDSM practitioner and rope bondage specialist Sophia Rose — founder of Venus Hour — to explore what actually happens when you slow everything down. We get into what Shibari is and where it comes from, why rope creates a quality of intimacy that handcuffs simply can't, and why the most interesting thing about being tied up often has nothing to do with what happens next.
We also get into the stuff that doesn't always make it into the wellness version of this conversation: why fully safe and fully erotic are in tension with each other, what it means to explore power dynamics without losing your feminist card, the surprising crossover between kink and neurodivergence, and why — after 12 years in this world — the main thing Sophia has learned is empathy.
Oh, and Cole discovers he might be kinkier than he thought.
In this episode:
What Shibari actually is — and what it isn't
Why rope creates intimacy differently to other forms of restraint
The relationship between power, surrender, and trust
Morality, desire, and why they're less connected than we think
Service topping, body worship, and expanding what dominance can look like
Why kink spaces attract so many neurodivergent people
The difference between something being therapeutic and actual therapy
Visit Sophia's website: venushour.co.uk | @sophia___rose_
Connect with the hosts
Nyla Khan is the founder of Unbound Relating — a coaching and community space for people who've outgrown the default scripts around relationships, identity and how life is supposed to look. She works with women ready to shed the patterns still running their lives and build something meaningfully, unapologetically theirs. More at UnboundRelating.com
Cole Paulson is a writer, cultural commentator and digital nomad who grew up in Colorado and has spent years observing — and questioning — the stories different cultures tell about how life should be lived
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