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MY APPROACH

To Rope and Kink

I view rope as an extension of our hands and touch, a versatile tool for restriction, sensation, and communication. It allows us to express ourselves and be curious with others, non verbally.

Rope, like touch, conveys a myriad of emotions: it can be sensual, challenging, creative, loving, bizarre, comforting, cathartic, soothing, erotic, energising, and so much more.

Instead of asking what you want to "do," I’m more interested in how you/ we want to feel. What do you desire? What shall we explore together? The same tie can evoke vastly different sensations depending on our intention and application. The pleasure is in the process rather than the end result.

I am passionate about holding space for people to explore their desires and taboos without shame, embracing pleasure and power. Kink can be a journey that doesn't have to mean anything specific, it can be simply for pleasure and fun - or you can analyse it as deeply as you like. For me, it's can sometimes feel like a piece of improvised  theatre, where we notice symbolism, roles, pleasure, power, and fantasy. Stepping into something magical, a container of sorts, full of versatility and outcomes. What a curious way to explore and express ourselves and subvert themes in our lives/the world... so many possibilities and that's what keeps many of us coming back!

To Teaching

Since 2013, I have gained diverse perspectives through my professional work in the BDSM scene and the adult industry, alongside my experiences in the social sector’s support services since 2019. This background informs my practice and approach to education.

My facilitation is grounded in a person-centered, trauma-aware framework. I have practical knowledge and training in group facilitation aimed at therapeutic outcomes, as well as ongoing training in Nonviolent Communication and intimacy coaching.

I have also worked as a facilitator in support services, leading peer groups, providing Relationship and Sex Education (RSE) for young people, and delivering consent education at universities. I am passionate about co-production, trauma-informed approaches, and education that promotes agency and advocacy.

I prioritise collaboration, experiential learning, and empathy in my teaching.

 

I am told I bring a curious, warm, and grounding energy to the spaces I create, believing that we learn best when the whole person is considered. Learning should be fun and pleasurable, so I encourage an atmosphere that prioritises care and self connection.

My Journey

I have been practicing rope since 2013, actively seeking learning experiences that deepen my understanding of both sides of the rope. I’ve performed and taught at festivals, events, and workshops across the UK and worldwide.

As a practitioner, I self-tie, tie others, and enjoy being tied myself, a dynamic often referred to as switching. This unique perspective allows me to understand and teach both roles in the rope experience. I believe that rope is a 50/50 collaborative partnership in learning and growth, and my teaching reflects this philosophy.

My tying style is often described as grounding, sensual, playful (and in the right circumstances quite surprisingly sadistic). I find joy in witnessing the unique and personal reactions that arise when people are tied.

Through this practice, I continue to learn about myself and others, nourishing my curiosity and desire to discover different ways to play and connect.

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